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Bethan Morgan

As a final year student at university, it is time for me to decide what I want to do next. All my life I have wanted to be a teacher, and I am lucky enough to have been given a place on a teaching course next year. The course will take place in my home town, and after four years of living away from my family, I know I will find it very strange to live there again. Of course, I do live at home during the summer, but to be there permanently will actually be quite different. This isn’t because I don’t enjoy living at home, because I do, it is mainly because I have become used to the independence that being a student brings. While I live away from home I have to buy everything myself, I have to pay bills and I have to work hard to pay rent for my house, just like every other student.

Because of the economic situation in this country, it is becoming more and more popular among students to live at home again after they graduate. One reason for this is a lack of jobs, or the difficulty to get a job – as so many people are applying for the same post as you, it turns into a competition of experience, which is something that is difficult for students to have. Another reason is the cost of living, and bills, which means that living with your family is sometimes the only option when it comes to money.

In my family I am one of two children, and my younger sister will start studying at university next year. This means that my parents won’t have that strange period of time when both of their children have moved out, leaving them living as just the two of them once more. I haven’t spoken to them about it, but I am sure that this isn’t a problem for them – I would like to think that they enjoy having us around! Having said that, I don’t think this is what they had in mind on that first day when I left for university.

I am coming to terms with having to live at home again, and I will enjoy being able to see my parents every day, as at the moment I only see them once a month. However, I am only looking at this as a temporary situation – I would love to find my own place eventually, when I can afford it! 

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Is it common in your country for people to move away from home to study? Would you prefer to live with your parents or find your own place?

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Mo0ode1522 10 September, 2014 - 11:25

I actually don't know, because my family helped me for every thing I lived with them all of my life so it will be hard to leave them, it will be hard to get money. my parents were giving me the money that I need but I think that sometime I will leave them so I want to tell them thank you for every thing you did it to me and I will love you for the rest of my life!

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justcricketforme 21 October, 2013 - 14:19

It's very common here. hmm. Would I like to I like to move away? Well us! It would be a parent free zone where I'd be able to follow my own timetable.

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learningenglish282 2 October, 2013 - 16:02

It's common in my country for people to move away from home to study. I am lucky to be born in the biggest city in my country and be able to get a place at the school i've dreamt of. However, some of my classmates have to move far from their birthplace to study here and they have so many financial difficulties. After class, they have to find a part-time job in order to earn some extra money to pay for studying fee as well as bills, house renting fee... i admire them so much

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Herbs 8 August, 2013 - 14:35

Yes, it is common in Taiwan for people to move away from home to study. I prefer finding my own place cuz nobody can bother me there.

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Vlatko234 6 August, 2013 - 12:59

In Macedonia many students go away from home to study. They often go in abroad,in some popular universities such as:Cambridge,Oxford and some universities in United States. After graduating they prefer to work in the county where they studied .Only a few chose to return to the home country .In future I would like to find my own place .I would to live in United States or Australia because I want to feel the pace of life outside Europe .

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Bosnianchild 3 July, 2013 - 15:11

In Bosnia,parents send their children on university beucase there is only in few citys like Sarajevo,Zenica,Tuzla,Mostar.
I would to live with my parents when I start with university,but it's better for child to go in other town.

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Lavender 10 June, 2013 - 10:08

For me, living far from home has both advantage and disadvantage.
- Advantage:
+ I can stay up as late as I like, I can go anywhere anytime without telling parents. I can leave my table a little mess. I'm free.
+ I spend less time to eat, do the house chores,... which mean I have more time to study or play.
- Disadvantage:
+ It's very easy to feel lonely. I'm seriously. My friends are nice but they have their own life and they can't stay by my side anytime I need them. I'm not their priority. I'm my parents' priority, and they're far away.
+ I'm tempted to play more than study.
In short, I'd rather live on my own. I like freedom. Moreover, it makes me stronger, I'm responsible for my life.

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Bethan Morgan 14 June, 2013 - 18:32

Hi Lavender, thank you for your comment, you make some really good points! I agree, I think it is sometimes more difficult to motivate yourself to study or do housework when there isn't a parent there to tell you to do it, but I suppose you get into a routine over time which helps :) 

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Lavender 15 June, 2013 - 07:12

Thank you so much, Ms.Morgan. I think I have to grow up by learning how to deal with independent life.

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onedirectionlov... 21 May, 2013 - 14:20

Hi!!!!!!!!!!!
In Pakistan, it's very common people having their children abroad (usually rich people's). Usually they go to UK or the US. Nearly all my cousins have done that and now they are either in UK or the US. Yep, I'd like to do that rather than sitting home or being scolded for being home late, talking to much on my mobile to my friends, spending too much time on Yahoo mailing and hearing too loud music. Well I've decided that I will straight away go to UK after doing A'levels, and stdying languages of the world. I'll also'l be me, the real me! Internet, 1D mad and free girl plus no 'don't ever come home late,', 'don't hear loud music and 'don't spend so much time on Yahoo,' won't be heard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Zoje10 14 April, 2013 - 11:50

i like more living alone because living with others it `s really dificult because you are obbligated to do whatever they want or they have rules that you should respect but when you live alone you can do whatever you want and nobody is going to say you "don`t do that","don`t speak like that","don`t come late at night". it`s not that i don`t want to live with my parent`s but there are some things that they wanna decide for you and i don`t like this.

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Bora F 2 April, 2013 - 13:42

i like that when a start my school away from my country i would like to stay alone at my own home..////

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Natalija 29 March, 2013 - 19:42

Malika, I like your comment;).
I'm sixteen years old, and I'm thinking of what to study. In Serbia we have eight grades of primary school, and four grades of high school. I'm attending the 2nd grade of high school, and I've been also thinking of studying abroad, just like you. I think that countries you have mentioned sound great; I'd like to study in England or in the USA. I've been also thinking of Canada. Yes, it's a little far away, but my parents support me and I really like the way of living there and the educational system, people etc. ,so there shouldn't been any problem.
Anyway, good luck for the university; I hope you'll succeed to enroll the university you'd like to attend.
Greetings from Serbia;).

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Bethan Morgan 12 April, 2013 - 09:18

Thank you for your interesting comments - good luck to you in whatever you choose to do :)

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Natalija 29 March, 2013 - 19:34

Mariami, great comment;).
I didn't know that in Georgia students usually stay at home with parents, and that girls can leave the house only after being married. I was also surprised to see that you don't have part-time jobs there. For the USA is characteristic to provide part-time jobs for teens, but it seems to not be like that in every country. In Serbia is the same, I have never had a part-time job, but I'd like to have one. It would be such a great experience.
I completely understand why you want to move away, I want the same. I'm sure you'll succeed to find a job and to study at the same time;).
I would also agree with you about making decisions. It's crucial for us to make decisions by ourselves; even if we do wrong, we'll learn from that, and if we stay at home, without any experience and opportunities, we cannot understand the world's problems, and the most important, we wouldn't be able to solve our problems. Sometimes people should take the risk, and to try something new.
Best wishes;).

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mariami1231 30 March, 2013 - 14:58

Thanks for your support :) I'd really try hard to do my best ! I am happy that we share the same views <3

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malika751 28 March, 2013 - 09:26

I live in Kazakhstan, Astana city, anf now I'm a student of the 9th form. I have to study only 2 years and then finally... university!:) cant wait because I'm tired of school. I havent decided yet where I'm goint to study but I should choose between UK, Germany and Switzerland. I do not think that USA and Canada are good choices for me bcus it's too far from my family and hometown. but i want to visit these countries so much. anyway i have 2 years to think about that:)

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Bethan Morgan 12 April, 2013 - 09:16

I think it's great that you want to move abroad to study - you will learn so much! Good luck with everything and enjoy yourself :)

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mariami1231 24 March, 2013 - 13:42

Hi, I'd like to introduce my personal opinion about this topic. I'm from Georgia and here,in my country, because of low economic development It isn't common for students to move away while studying at university. There are several reasons why students prefer living with family.
First of all, in my country, is widely spread stereotype that only after a girl gets married can move away from parents house. Of course, there are some broad-minded parents, but mostly for girls moving from their parents house is restricted. At the same time, there aren't any part-time jobs for students in our country, job salaries are low and It's so difficult for students to pay bills. If you decide to move away, It's like making something terrible in Georgia. In addition, moving away means starting independent life and, unfortunately, many students aren't ready to take responsibilty. This is because in childhood parents in Georgia aren't letting their sons, daughters to try to be independent. Furthermore, It's usually cheaper to stay at home, you don't have to pay for house.
However, I want desperately to move away while studying at university. Moving away, starting a new life alone is something that is always in my dreams. I'd able to understand life, get work and study experience.At the same time,moving away would be a chance to make more new friends, acquaintances and make my own decisions. If I make mistakes at first, then It will give me a valuable lesson because I believe ,,Never a failure always a lesson''. Of course, I'd be difficult to do chores work and study at the same time,but this will motivate me to study hard to be able to get an interesting, creative job in future. On the other hand, I will miss my parents and brother so much, but if a person wants to make changes, then he has to try to do something new, maybe, at first difficult for him.
To conclude, I reccomend everyone to listen to their heart. If you are motivated to start a new life, then don't be afraid of failure! I exactly know that after I get 18, I'll try to get a job ( as a shop assistant or waitress). Having your own money teaches you not to waste a money or time. Unfortunately, during my first years I won't be able to hire a small flat, but I'll try to do my best !
M a r i a m i

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Bethan Morgan 12 April, 2013 - 09:14

Thank you for your very detailled and interesting answer! It is great that you are able to say so much about this topic :)

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spirited away 21 March, 2013 - 13:38

Hey,
Here, in Georgia, usually students live with their parents.
It's not common to have your own house and life here.
For some reasons, that's good, cause when you're controlled, you try not come home very late.
You try to study well and not to make your parents angry.
But I would prefer anyway independent life.
I think it's better to live alone as student.
Because, when you finish university, busy life with many different problem is waiting for you.
And when you're already used to being alone, outer life doesn't scare you anymore.
So, I hope when I finish school, I will find my own place.

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Natalija 18 March, 2013 - 12:33

In Serbia, my home country, students are used to move to the capital to study. Earlier, it wasn't like that, but now, more and more students every year go from home and I don't think it should be a problem. It's much better to be independent, to live on your own, and only in that way, you can create your personality. I am looking forward to moving to London the 2015. I'm going to enroll foundation year and later Cambridge and I am really excited about it. I'll be away from parents, but even in Serbia, I don't have a close relation with them, so what's the problem? I like traveling abroad and I think I'll live in England.

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toanbn 18 March, 2013 - 04:07

In my country,VietNam,these students common move away from home to study,
I prefer to live with my parents ,because of I love them,I want to take care of them,it's very happy

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MALINE 18 March, 2013 - 00:26

Hi Bethan what subject would you like to teach? I also want to be an English Teacher some day any tips or suggestions?

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Bethan Morgan 18 March, 2013 - 14:51

Hi! I would love to teach languages - I have always wanted to do it :) This year I will be teaching French and Spanish and I can't wait! Good to hear it - I taught English in Spain for a year and it was the best year of my life. I definitely recommend it. Experience is important, when you go for an interview that is what they want to hear about, so any volunteering would be a great help. Also living somewhere where they speak the language helps you to improve so much. Good luck with everything! 

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Natalija 4 April, 2013 - 14:34

Bethan Morgan, I would completely agree with you about experience. I know from my own experience that volunteering is so important. I applied for some exchanging program in the USA and they rejected me because I lack volunteering experience. But I think it shouldn't be like that. How could we gain the experience if we firstly don't have a chance to get it? But, we can't do nothing to change it. Anyway, I won't give up, and hope to get some good volunteering opportunity as soon as possible.

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Beauty2705 16 March, 2013 - 16:03

I hate living without my parents...and I know how hard it would be for students to move out....I have moved too and haven't been able to see my family for months though sometimes they come here or I go home for some days...but I am glad that my mom is going to come with my younger brother in a week....

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Flo Gert 11 March, 2013 - 09:42

something common in my country is that the students need to work to pay the bills but students here get back at home every weekend !

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o-ymeri 10 March, 2013 - 20:01

In Albania students can stay with their parents or if they want to stay in their own place....this depend on what students want .... :)

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aida 9 March, 2013 - 16:22

Here we Albania each syudent can live with if the parents near the school where pursuing ..But if the school where he attends university is far away can live apart from the family in another country after the age of 18 one is independent =)

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EnotIzOpiuma 7 March, 2013 - 12:33

In my country, in Russia, young people after the 11th form usually moves to the central cities for studying in main universities of the country. And, I think they just don't have any opportunities in their home towns. As for me, I wouldn't live with my parents. I would find my own place, and if it will be possible in my home time. =) The end. =)

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Demy 5 March, 2013 - 16:29

Hi!!!
In Ukraine it is common to move away from home to study. Many of our young people like live alone without parents. They want to feel independent. I do'nt think that is necessary to live whole life with your parents. So in future I would like to find my own place to live.But not now because I am too young))
Wonderful article!!! Like, like,like!!!

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Bethan Morgan 10 March, 2013 - 21:29

Thank you ! I agree, although living with your parents is lovely, it is still important to learn how to be independent! 

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